Comments on: Plus or Minus, to Have Never Dated Before? http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/ Seeking truth and beauty from the heavenly city. Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:54:59 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Ferdinand http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-4281 Ferdinand Wed, 28 Jan 2009 18:16:18 +0000 http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-4281 Did I write that? :) Interesting... Did I write that?
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]]> By: Epeuthutebetes http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1270 Epeuthutebetes Wed, 23 May 2007 18:13:25 +0000 http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1270 It is crucial indeed to be gauging where the two people in a pre-marriage relationship are headed, and equally important, if not more important, to make sure that the focus is on Christ and that one is spurring on the other to good works. It is a minus for someone to have dated without intentional, not just by-default, progress towards determining the suitability of marriage. It is essential, therefore, that the relationship not be dragged on longer than necessary. Stagnation is not a good reason to remain in a relationship. Emotional marriage before or without an actual marriage is a dangerous thing, and without a sense of direction two people can easily fall into it. It is advisable, furthermore, not to let time spent with a sister whom one is pursuing for marriage swallow up time spent with other people, especially time spent together with no friends or acquaintances around, i.e. in anonymity. It is crucial indeed to be gauging where the two people in a pre-marriage relationship are headed, and equally important, if not more important, to make sure that the focus is on Christ and that one is spurring on the other to good works.

It is a minus for someone to have dated without intentional, not just by-default, progress towards determining the suitability of marriage.

It is essential, therefore, that the relationship not be dragged on longer than necessary. Stagnation is not a good reason to remain in a relationship. Emotional marriage before or without an actual marriage is a dangerous thing, and without a sense of direction two people can easily fall into it.

It is advisable, furthermore, not to let time spent with a sister whom one is pursuing for marriage swallow up time spent with other people, especially time spent together with no friends or acquaintances around, i.e. in anonymity.

]]> By: nathan http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1265 nathan Wed, 23 May 2007 13:42:06 +0000 http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1265 I think I have to agree with you, good Epeuthutebetes. However, I shall be less eloquent, and simply say that it takes a shallow-minded individual to dismiss, or levy many "minuses" against, someone who simply has not dated. I did not date, at least not in the traditional sense of the word. I believe my "inexperience" in dating was something that attracted me to my then-future, now-current wife. I believe dating, as meant in secular society today, is not a good thing. Young men and women are establishing memories with people that may not end up being their spouse. Leaving aside the entire issue of increased physicality in relationships, just spending time alone with someone begins to knit a bond between two people. I believe the longer you do this, the stronger the bond. Sexual relations takes this bond to an entirely different level. I think "dating" at best is a waste of time and effort, and at worst is a dangerous activity that can cause harm to a future marriage that can only be healed by repentance and the grace of Jesus. "Do not give your strength to women"... do not put all your effort and time in dating, but rather be focused on Christ. I think I have to agree with you, good Epeuthutebetes. However, I shall be less eloquent, and simply say that it takes a shallow-minded individual to dismiss, or levy many “minuses” against, someone who simply has not dated.

I did not date, at least not in the traditional sense of the word. I believe my “inexperience” in dating was something that attracted me to my then-future, now-current wife. I believe dating, as meant in secular society today, is not a good thing. Young men and women are establishing memories with people that may not end up being their spouse. Leaving aside the entire issue of increased physicality in relationships, just spending time alone with someone begins to knit a bond between two people. I believe the longer you do this, the stronger the bond. Sexual relations takes this bond to an entirely different level.

I think “dating” at best is a waste of time and effort, and at worst is a dangerous activity that can cause harm to a future marriage that can only be healed by repentance and the grace of Jesus.

“Do not give your strength to women”… do not put all your effort and time in dating, but rather be focused on Christ.

]]> By: azileretsis http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1167 azileretsis Wed, 16 May 2007 03:53:14 +0000 http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1167 I'm <i>really</i> impressed. You found my other site. I like the idea of different sites for different purposes. No Latin, conversational C, a little K, S, F, G. I'm actually horrible at languages but learn it out of necessity. I have a friend doing her Ph.D. in linguistics if you want to know more about the field. I’m really impressed. You found my other site. I like the idea of different sites for different purposes. No Latin, conversational C, a little K, S, F, G. I’m actually horrible at languages but learn it out of necessity. I have a friend doing her Ph.D. in linguistics if you want to know more about the field.

]]> By: Epeuthutebetes http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1160 Epeuthutebetes Tue, 15 May 2007 17:05:24 +0000 http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1160 Thank you for your compliments, but as a college student I suppose I really do have this time sometimes, and when I don't the blogging serves as a little bit of my reflection time anyway, even when I don't have anything written for the public eye during that time. Yes, the Xanga site is mine too. Now for my term paper... :) Thank you for your compliments, but as a college student I suppose I really do have this time sometimes, and when I don’t the blogging serves as a little bit of my reflection time anyway, even when I don’t have anything written for the public eye during that time. Yes, the Xanga site is mine too. Now for my term paper… :)

]]> By: azileretsis http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1159 azileretsis Tue, 15 May 2007 16:56:48 +0000 http://epeuthutebetes.wordpress.com/2007/05/12/plus-or-minus-to-have-never-dated-before/#comment-1159 I'm impressed. Is the Xanga site also yours? You maintain two websites and you do a lot on both?!? I like the song. Also, a little intimidated if you are an example of what the next generation can do. I’m impressed. Is the Xanga site also yours? You maintain two websites and you do a lot on both?!? I like the song. Also, a little intimidated if you are an example of what the next generation can do.

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