Having some miscegenation is not a problem: the Pomo Indians of California have even practised language exogamy without endangering themselves. Though it is often commendable, however, I think people need to approach their marriage choices thoughtfully and actually consider the cultural advantages and disadvantages. To act as if marriage is only a match of two persons is naïve at best, and an intercultural marriage needs to accept responsibility for two communities. Contrary to the internationalist presumptions of many liberals, we are in no way bound to support anything that mixes people up, even though it is no crime for culturally different folk to marry.
I suspect that intercultural marriage requires the preëxistence of a certain degree of trust and understanding between the two kinds. That way, a marriage cultivates a relationship that already exists rather than forcing strangers into a false relationship.
For me, to marry a Japanese lady would be no mean task. Multum obstat. Those who are able, I respect them, but I myself would have to find overwhelming virtues to even consider having a Japanese wife and Japanese in-laws.
Likewise, I am increasingly convinced that marrying someone White who bore little relation to the Chinese would likely be disastrous. Several in my family, both in my generation and in the generation above me, have married White Americans or Europeans; but in every case both spouses need to some extent to identify with the other ethnicity. It would be out of the question to marry a White lady who had no steady interest in learning Chinese.
It is ignorant to take offence at people liking to marry their own kind, and it is tyrannical to suppress this preference under the pretence of integration. It is one thing to oppose antimiscegenation laws, but another thing to imagine that miscegenation is always good. In many cases, it is unwise, and I am unwilling to accept the use of marriage as a pawn for anyone’s utopian ideals. For those who marry are stewards of their people’s heritage and the institution of marriage, and those who flout their duties dishonour their parents.